Mirror, mirror, on the wall; who’s the fairest of them all? We all remember this from Snow White but how many people are saying, “Mirror, mirror, on the wall. I hate what I’m seeing!”
I find that women have a much greater tendency than men to be self-deprecating. When they look in the mirror, they see just the things they don’t like and dismiss their natural beauty.
One of the things I love the most about being an image consultant is helping women discover their personal beauty and learn how to make it work for them. After all, if each of us has totally unique finger-prints and irises, then without question, each of us is a unique creation, never intended to look like someone else.
Little girls look in the mirror and appreciate their image. Look at the sheer delight in the face of this little girl. I have always love the Norman Rockwell picture of a young girl all dressed up admiring herself all dressed up in her make-believe world. How do we lose that? It may be from some thoughtless critical remarks. It often comes when young girls start to compare themselves with others.
It always saddens me when I see Cher today. She was strikingly beautiful with her dramatic bone structure. Her American Indian heritage was evident, giving her a unique beauty unlike anyone else. Then there is Michael Jackson. What an adorable young boy prior to his multiple surgeries.
The key is to accept the “is’s”! So you wish you were tall enough to be a model and you are 5’ 2”. That’s and “is” and can’t be changed. Learn how to appreciate your petite frame and make the most of it. You can wear things that no 5’ 10” woman can wear! Or perhaps you are large boned. You aren’t going to going to be able to wear something frilly and very feminine. You will probably look fabulous in more tailored, classic or sporty clothes.
I encourage everyone to stop and look at your own beautiful design. Do you get compliments on your hair? Then choose a style that accentuates your hair, one that you can maintain. Then, let that be your crowning glory even running to the grocery store. You have a small waist but are fuller through the hips. Choose styles that minimize your hips while accentuating your small waist. You get the picture. Focus on the features that bring you compliments, those features that you love about yourself and make the most of them.
If you are not quite sure how to make this work for you, please call for a half hour complementary converstion. I look forward to hearing from you! Beryl@StyleWithAplomb.com 404-428-2527