If They Can’t See You They Can’t Hear You

Have you ever been chatting with a group of people and every time one person attempted to add to the conversation, she (and it is almost always a “she”) was ignored?  I have seen this and it is usually because the ignored person is almost invisible.
Years ago, after having gone through the then popular training in the four seasons color analysis, I had a client who was a perfect example of being invisible.  Her graying brown hair matched the beige frames of her glasses and her barely discernible makeup helped her become nearly invisible.  Although she was impeccably groomed, her beige business suit with a cream colored blouse turned her into oatmeal!  Had she stood next to a beige wall, it would have been hard to see her.
The lovely medium soft blues, pinks and lilacs of the cool summer color palette brought her delicate coloring alive without being so bright that it overpowered her.  Carrying these medium shades of her palette through in her makeup transformed her by showing off the natural beauty she was.
Of course, the color system I now use is significantly more complex offering a much greater range of colors for each client and even taking into consideration their personality.  The four seasons served as a wonderful introduction to women everywhere about the importance colors play in helping them look their authentic best.
I am always saddened when women allow themselves to be “invisible”.  They may be the most intelligent and talented person in the office but are not
the one who get the promotion because they do not “show up”.  I recently worked with a client who was convinced that his expertise in his profession was what was important and his appearance did not play an important role.  After we worked together, he changed to a more professional appearance and within weeks had, not only got an offer for a new job, but his present employer gave him a significant raise.
Is it time for you to upgrade your image to match your competence?   Let’s talk!  Beryl@StyleWithAplomb.com  404-428-2527

Short legs?

http://Short Legs?

How to look taller if you have short legs.

Great skirt length –ankle strap shortens
the leg – choose a pump
Short Legs?
 
I was surprised when my daughter commented, “Mom, how come I didn’t get your long legs?  I had always thought of how lucky she was to have a nicely proportioned  hourglass body shape while I have a high hip-bone to deal with!

We don’t always appreciate that each of us is designed uniquely.  There is no one else like us in the world   so we have the joy of dressing a unique work of art.  There is a way to camouflage those traits that aren’t our favorites so let’s look at leg length.

Change bootie to pump with hose that blend with colors.
It is the lower part of your leg from your knee down that gives a visual appearance of a long leg.   Thus, a skirt length near the knee is a good length for most people.
Avoid wearing shoes that visually “cut” your lower leg such as ankle-strap shoes or short boots.   You can achieve the look of a long leg line by wearing opaque tights in the same color as your booties and skirt.  Wearing hose that visually pull your skirt and shoes together is also effective.  A pointed toed shoe will further enhance the visual leg length.
Wide legged cropped pants should be avoided.  These trousers are great for the lady with wide hips but they should be full length, almost touching the floor.
Monochromatic blend of colors  pull this together.
Notice how short her legs look with these wide-legged pants.
One final trick for anyone who wants to appear to have longer legs, push your sleeves up!  It is amazing how you instantly appear taller!  How easy is that?
Use these tricks and see how effective they are in helping you achieve the image you want.

Was This Designed for Another Body?

Yikes! This outfit is made for someone else’s body!

You have this great new outfit. Then you notice that it doesn’t look quite like it did in the dressing room!

Fit! It can make or break your image. In reality, few people can walk out of a store with a new garment and have the perfect fit. Each of our bodies is unique. None of us has the perfect proportions to match those used by a designer. Each brand of clothing uses its own design specs which explains why one brand will fit you beautifully and another will not even be wearable. You may have chosen a beautiful garment well styled for you but it doesn’t look great on you. It is probably fit. This is when you check with the alterations person and see if it can be adjusted to fit well and if the alteration are cost effective.

Some of the most common fit issues are:Too tight–Too loose in certain areas–Sleeves too long or short–Sleeves are too tight or too loose–Pants have pull lines, especially in the crotch area–Proportion is not flattering to your build.  Notice how much better the right image on the bottom  looks with some fine tuning.

This suit does not fit! The shoulders appear to be too wide and the sleeves are too short. Obviously, the skirt on the left is too tight. And we haven’t even seen the front!
This looks more like a bath robe than a dress. It is too    blousy and makes the wearer appear pounds heavier. I would suggest something more tailored to give her a stronger, trim looking vertical line.
These pants pull in the rear. The rise is too short. This cannot be altered to fit properly so take care in choosing jeans and trousers that fit your rise.

It’s Officially Fall!

With fall officially here, I am getting fashion magazines featuring new fall clothes that are arriving in the stores.  I was really disappointed to see Vogue flooding the pages with plaids in every iteration.  It
looked more like a magazine for lumberjacks to choose their wardrobes to transition into cooler weather!  The lumberjack look has a place–think hunting,  cutting trees and many hardy outdoor activities.  Fashion for every day is a bit of a stretch.

Plaids give an outdoor image.  The larger the plaid, the more masculine it looks.  Plaids work very well for the person with a square jaw when appropriately sized to your features but they are not flattering for rounded features.  Most of the garments that I noticed would have been appropriate for a Bohemian look but not serious daily wear.  I can’t imagine wearing these selections to work unless you work in a very casual setting.

There were a number of various sized check as well.  I mean like one often sees in an Italian restaurant in red.  Do you want to look like the tablecloth in a pizza restaurant?  Even if the check is black and white, it still reminds you of a tablecloth!  Carolina Herrera, known for her beautiful refined, feminine clothing, featured an evening dress in about a 1″ black and white check.  Wouldn’t you feel more appropriate at a picnic?

You will be happy to know that there are many other choices to help you choose the right look for you.  Wisely, the buyers for the stores chose more wearable pieces that do not represent the extreme choices of Vogue.  Lets here it for the buyers!

Images from Saks.

Look! I’m Beautiful!

 Look!  I’m Beautiful!
 

“Mirror, mirror, on the wall.  I’m Ugly!
What ever happened between these little girls who see their own beauty in the mirror but grow up to find every perceived flaw?  I find that women have a much greater tendency than men to be self-deprecating.  When they look in the mirror, they see just the things they don’t like and dismiss their natural beauty.
One of the things I love the most about being an image consultant is helping women discover their personal beauty and learn how to make it work for them.  After all, each of us has totally unique finger-prints and irises, then without question, each of us is a unique creation, never intended to look like someone else.
Little girls look in the mirror and appreciate their image.  Look at the sheer delight in the face of this little girl.  I have always love the Norman Rockwell picture of a young girl all dressed up admiring herself in her make-believe world.  How do we lose that?  It may be from some thoughtless critical remarks.   It often comes when young girls start to compare themselves with others.
It always saddens me when I see Cher today.  She was strikingly beautiful with her dramatic bone structure.  Her American Indian heritage was evident, giving her a unique beauty, unlike anyone else. In my opinion, she has diminished her unusual beauty by trying to look like everyone else.
The key is to accept the “is’s”!  So you wish you were tall enough to be a model and you are 5′ 2″.  That’s and “is” and can’t be changed.  Learn how to appreciate your petite frame and make the most of it.  You can wear things that no 5′ 10″ woman can wear!  Or perhaps you are large boned.  You aren’t going to be able to wear something frilly and very feminine.  You will probably look fabulous in more tailored, classic or sporty clothes.

 Norman Rockwell was a master at capturing emotions of children.  This little girl is totally delighted in the result of adding make-up.

I encourage everyone to stop and look at your own beautiful design.  Treasure those aspects that are your unique beauty.  Do you get compliments on your hair?  Then choose a style that accentuates your hair, one that you can maintain.  Then, let that be your crowning glory even when you are running to the grocery store.  You have a small waist but are fuller through the hips.  Choose styles that minimize your hips while accentuating your small waist.  You get the picture.  Focus on the features that bring you compliments, those features that you love about yourself and make the most of them.
We love to help women recognize their own special beauty that others do not have.  How fun to embrace your own “Signature Style” and be the most beautiful “you” that you can be!

What’s in Your Wallet (oops!) Closet?

 

What’s in Your Wallet (Oops) Closet?
Most people wear only 20% of what is in their closets.  That is truly shocking.
Are you a 20%er?
                        
My daughter called me a week ago very excited. She was going to a girlfriend’s and going shopping.  It was Sunday and most of her favorite resale shops were closed so I was a little puzzled.   Then she explained that she was going shopping AT her friend’s home in HER closet!  Her friend had accepted a new position across the country and was selling her large home.  One entire bedroom had been transformed into a closet, affording additional space for her other large closets.  She was inviting friends to come and help her eliminate hundreds of pieces of clothing.
But they were so cheap!

What a great adventure!  But then my image consultant ‘s heart took over and all I could think of was, “How could she possibly wear all those clothes?”  “Wouldn’t it just make your head explode to have hundreds of choices each day?”  How much money is wrapped up in items of clothing that might get worn once a year – or not at all?”

That is an extreme case but working in many of my client’s closets I find similarities. Many of my clients are avid shoppers.    Put the word SALE in front of that and you have catapulted the adventure from enjoying the fun
 shopping to a buying frenzy.
I was going to wear this where??
One of my clients had a huge closet full of clothes, many of which looked just like the next item.  She had found a certain looks that worked very well for her but the need for 15 similarly styled tops is questionable.  Another client had over 10 black wool skirts but she tended to wear more casual slacks to work, leaving these beautiful skirts hanging, unworn, in the back of her closet.
Then there is the client who just loves a sale without analyzing how the garment looks on her.  It may not be a good color or style for her, but it was such a bargain!  Unfortunately. This garment will usually hang in the closet with the tags still attached.
When we moved from a large home with custom walk-in closets, to our condo, I was confronted with having to scale back my clothing to fit two much smaller closets shared with my husband.  We recently installed closet organizers and I now have one of those closets to myself.  I realized that I don’t need lots of clothes.  I only need  well-chosen key basics and a wide variety of versatile accent pieces.  Each of these is in my color palette and coordinate with other pieces.  They reflect my individual style, fit perfectly, and will take me to any event from theatre, casual, important business meeting or other occasion.    The good news:  I never have to spend time in my closet wondering what to wear!

What’s Your Favorite Basic Color?

What’s Your Favorite Basic Color?
I received a call from a client last week asking for guidance in choosing the best color for shirt and tie for an important interview.  Since he works in the tech arena, the basic dress for work is jeans and a polo shirt.  However, even this casual environment expects candidates to up their game for an interview.  Since this is a question I frequently am asked, I thought I would share a few guidelines to help you choose your best look.
 
Black is the most frequently chosen basic color.  It is strong and powerful-the ideal color to convey an image of power–a great choice for a CEO leading an important meeting but not so good for an interview.   Black is a complex color that sends different messages.   We associate black with grief signaling withdrawal but that can also apply if one is under pressure to finish big project and simply doesn’t have the energy to wear colors.  Black is a good basic if you have very dark hair and/or dark skin but you will appear more approachable using a colored blouse or shirt.   Notice the models pictured above.  The burgundy blouse keeps a business look but brings lightness and softness toward her face.  The man has a more relaxed appearance with light slacks and blue shirt.  Blue is an excellent shirt color, flattering to most people regardless of whether they are cool or warm toned.
 
Gray is an excellent color for business.  The lighter the shade, the more casual it appears while a charcoal gray which has black added, becomes more powerful and formal.  Gray can be accented by most colors.  Since it is a combination of black and white, it projects compromise, especially in the lighter shades.  It is a wonderful choice to wear into a situation of conflict.  You appear to be ready to negotiate.

Brown has an earthy vibe and is a good choice for people with warm toned coloring.  The addition of black to the brown fabrics makes it more formal business.

Navy blue is my all-time favorite as a wardrobe base color.   Blue is the most universally liked color.  It has a psychological impact of success and spirituality.  We “shoot for the moon” and “reach for the stars” and God is in the heavens.  Navy is formed from blue and black together, giving it the positive attributes just mentioned while adding the power of black.   Thus, navy is a strong business image yet is approachable.  Most all colors complement navy.  Whether, pink, red, orange, yellow, lime green, light teal or lilac or raspberry, you will be able to wear many of your best colors with navy.
Oh, the client who needed some help in his interviewing attire.  He had two job offers, one being the job he really wanted!
Beryl Pleasants
President
Style With Aplomb
404-428-2527

How Do You Choose the Best Hair Style?

 
 
How Do You Choose Your Best Hair Style
Have you ever taken a picture of a new hairstyle that you just love to your hairdresser asking to have the style copied for you?  If you are like me, you have experienced having your hairdresser respond with all the reasons that particular style will not work for your hair.  However, your hairdresser may not have considered other factors that can make or break a good hairstyle.
When I met Rubina, she had been referred to me so she called to interview me before embarking on a closet edit.  She dropped by my home early one morning, right after having gone to the gym, still wearing her gym clothes with her dark hair pulled back in a pony-tail.  As we got to know each other, I asked if she could let her hair down.  She promptly removed the rubber band and shook out this magnificent hair, framing her face with soft curls.  Rubina transformed before my eyes from attractive to stunning!
Several weeks later, after we had transformed her closet from the enemy to a friend with many choices at her fingertips, I asked if I could  take pictures of her new image.  She invited me to come to her upcoming hair appointment so her hair would be perfect.  When I arrived toward the end of  her appointment,  I discovered that she had asked her hairdresser to give her a “straight” look.  Gone were the curls that supported the lovely soft lines of her face.  There was a complete disconnect between her rounded facial features and the straight lines of her hair.
I took several picture but they simply did not do justice to Rubina so I did not use them.  Recently I was going through my photo library and ran across these photos.  Rubina was kind enough to give me permission to use these photos to illustrate how using the lines of your face are every bit as important in choosing a hair style as are the characteristics of your hair.
This is Rubina showing off her unique beauty with which she has been designed.

Does Everyone Really Need a Little Black Dress?

As long as I can remember, fashion articles have promoted the concept of the LBD being the most important item of clothing in your closet. I’m not totally in agreement but the concept definitely has merit.

My LBD is actually navy. Black is too harsh for my fair skin and blonde hair while navy blue is one of my best colors and is an excellent basic color for most anyone. If your hair is dark, black will probably work well for you. If black is not a great color for you, choose a neutral color that brings you many compliments and that will work coordinate with many other items in your wardrobe.

The ideal LBD is a simple design that flatters your figure and fits beautifully.  I have chosen an example with cap sleeves, making it a bit more appropriate for a business setting.  This dress could be worn without a jacket or sweater in the office for a less formal look.

 

Just keep in mind that your LBD should be one of your best basic colors. Then coordinate accent pieces with each other so they can be worn interchangeably. You now have a core wardrobe to take you anywhere with only 7 pieces. How easy is that?

Prints Return to Old Favorites

Polka dots and stripes are in abundance on the fashion scene.   All polka dots and stripes are not created equal.   Let’s look at them more closely and see which iteration might have a place in your spring wardrobe.

Polka dots just shout “fun”.  Their shape reminds you of   balloons and balls.  When I took classes at UCLA my professor said polka dots were frivolous.  I have come to the conclusion that tiny polka dots with little space between are, indeed, frivolous while  larger polka dots with more space between them have much more stability.   These polka dots are still fun but become less frivolous.

Stripes in women’s fashion are often horizontal, projecting a serene message.  Think of a landscape with the many horizontal lines. Turn the stripes into a diagonal, and they project an active, dynamic image.  Picture the contrast between the serene field and jagged mountains.  Vertical stripes project an erect, soldier-like image.  Men’s pinstripe suits have a formal, business persona.

 

This diagonal stripe incorporates several different design features. This dress is not for the quiet, shy person. She must be dynamic!

When stripes are used in women’s fashion, they can vary in width as well.   The wider the stripe, the more impact it makes.  I noticed the first stripes that appeared in the fashion cycle this year were in black and white.  This contrast is dramatic to begin with so a very wide stripe in black and white can only be pulled off by a wearer with a lot of attitude.  By softening the color palette, a wide stripe loses much of its drama.   Today, I was looking at a new magazine picturing a soft pink and white, wide horizontal stripe. It was perfect for the blonde, feminine model.  Black and white would have completely overpowered her.

With polka dots, varied colors become more frivolous and whimsical.  If your facial structure has lots of angles or your brows are straight, stripes will be excellent for you.  If you face is soft with lots of rounded lines, polka dots will be your friend.  If you have a combination of rounded and straight lines, you can wear either print.

Have fun choosing the size and shape that best says YOU!

Need some guidance in choosing the best stripes or polka dots for you?  That’s what we are here for.  Beryl@StyleWithAplomb.com or 404-428-2527.